The Firepit - written November 26th, 2010.
There was a storm three days ago that I think
most people thought would end the world.
I think at this point, I don’t think that the world will ever end. Things just change, things that we work on
for so long fall apart and slide away into the background, and we continue on
and on, only stopping every once in a while to remark about what we can
survive. At the times when we do stop
and turn to say this phrase, which is a very true phrase, we may notice for a
moment that the person who we are speaking to, whose hand we are holding, might
change. Not to say that they are an
entirely new person (although at some truly tragic points in our lives, this
may be true) sometimes we just realize that in all of our growing, changing, and
surviving, this other person has as well.
Well of course they have. And
maybe what is so surprising isn’t that they have changed, but that in sharing
the same space, the same halls, the same rooms, even the same bed, we have
somehow failed to notice that they did, or naively thought somehow they
wouldn’t.
Mike died in May, and now it is November. I hated how warm and sunny it was when he
died. It should have been a torrential
blizzard. No one should die when flowers
are in bloom. No one should die the week
that summer vacation starts. All of
those children screaming bloody murder as they bust out of school house doors,
making pirate ships out of low tree bows and knowing that almost three months
is still forever when you’re nine.
Meanwhile, there is a full chapel of confusion listening to a proxy for
God try to tell us about some other version of Eternity. One that seems final. Not an IS but a WAS. Remembering to speak in past tense. And all the saved souls and Christ’s tears
and thirty something’s wearing the only suits they own to show up to some
silliness that won’t help make sense to any of this. Then I prayed for the summer to end.
We have this fire pit.
HAD, actually. We are leaving
this house in two days. I remember when
Mike brought us down to see the house for the first time. After all the hard work he had put into
fixing the place up, he never wanted to live in it. I think after that first, year, he always
referred to it as ‘our’ house. We moved in during a magic spring, with everything
green and swaying in the breeze of new beginnings. And you only get to feel those once, during a
time before you can know what’s around the next corner. With my wife, who was only a girlfriend at
the time, and our dog, who was only a pup then, we brought all of the meager
belongings we had, bought a hammock and strung lights in the tall trees. It was nice.
We stayed for years. Barbecued
meat, sang songs, opened presents and drank till the sun came up. Friends moved into the vacant houses on the
other sides of the fence. We made plans
to plant new trees. We painted rooms and
stayed there longer than I have ever lived somewhere since I left my mother’s
house. Now the ground is frozen and we
are leaving. And the lights in the trees
have only a bulb or two that aren’t burnt out and the hammock rotted after we
forgot to take it down when the seasons changed. But there is still this fire pit. The one that Tory and I built from old adobe
brick we saved from a gutted house one March weekend. It is beautiful. It was our totem. Like pagans or savages, we sacrificed one
heaping pile of wood after another during those long summer nights. Any photos I have of this place, the parties
we had, the friends we saw, they are all illuminated by a firelights orange
glow. I remember when Mike told me that
we might as well fill in the fire pit, since everyone was growing up, and he
wouldn’t be around that much anymore. As
our resident drunken madman and landlord, Mike felt that it was he who was
keeping us up nights howling at the moon and lighting bonfires. And in a way, I guess he was right. Every fire that was lit after he died that
summer was somehow in memory of Mike.
Every movement that was made was a memorial. Every party thrown, a wake. Even months after his funeral, the simple
gesture of picking up beer bottles from around the pit or rearranging the lawn
chairs seemed like a sacred task with some weight to it. The houses here are still his, no matter what
the bank says. And the fire pit will
stay long after we are gone. It doesn’t
bother me to think that all of this has ended.
I now feel so far from the way it was before that I can’t even feel the
shock of change. And the changing of my
life has been like this blizzard, sweeping in so quick that I forgot what it
was like to be warm, and only have photos to remind me how we were before.
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